The one that got away. We all have one... the job that got away... the opportunity that got away... the person that got away.
For some, moving on is a breeze, but for others the loss of ‘what could have been’ can be incredibly crippling and overwhelming. I’ve come to find that knowing who God is and knowing who we are in Him, makes a BIG difference in how we deal with loss.
So many people lose themselves in the pursuit of their ‘what ifs’, because they think that nothing greater will ever come.
Nothing could be further from the truth. God always has more.
When we know how big God is and when we know the magnitude of His love for us, then no loss can ever be too great to bear. Where there are gaps in our stories, we can be sure that God will be there to fill it. He alone is our giver, our foundation, our portion – not something, someone or even our own self.
Sometimes God will pull you away from things and people in order to set you apart, but know that losing ‘the one that got away’ will never make you less complete than you already are. When you have God, you will always have everything you need (and more!) to get through whatever you are going through. Forreal. You don’t have to wait on other things in order for you to experience certainty, joy, freedom and fullness today.
These are a few verses that have been on my heart lately:
Psalm 73:26: My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.
Isaiah 26:3-4: “People with their minds set on you, you keep completely whole. Steady on their feet, because they keep at it and don’t quit. Depend on God and keep at it because in the Lord God you have a sure thing.”
Matthew 6:30-32: “If God gives such attention to the appearance of wildflowers—most of which are never even seen—don’t you think he’ll attend to you, take pride in you, do his best for you? What I’m trying to do here is to get you to relax, to not be so preoccupied with getting, so you can respond to God’s giving.”
Psalm 84:11-12: “No good thing does He withhold from those who walk uprightly.”
Psalm 34:10: “The lions may grow weak and hungry, but those who seek the Lord lack no good thing.”
So you didn’t get the job? That’s fine – keep applying. You made the wrong choice? That’s okay – God’s grace is limitless and you can always start over. Your relationship didn’t work out? That’s okay too. Trust that God knows you more than you know yourself.
Spend time getting to know who God is and who you are in Him. The ‘who’ who holds your future is a greater pursuit than the ‘why’ of your past. Always remember that what is truly for you will never be able to get away from you – God will never let you miss out on whatever He has for you. Bid ‘the one that got away’ farewell – no matter how good or ‘right’ it may seem – and have faith that God has a bigger, brighter and better future for you!